Month: September 2015

A Manifesto For When It’s Not OK


Do not pretend.


If you want something, stop pretending that you don’t.


If you don’t want something, stop pretending that you do.


If you are settling or stalling or stuck all together, stop pretending that you aren’t.


I know the game, I played it well. Pretend.


Today I am answering a question from a fellow Barefoot Boardroom Member who responded to my email from last week and wrote:


“Kelsey, I loved your video today, you hit me right between the eyes.


Here’s the problem though, deep down even though I know there is more for me, more to me and even a part of me I never show, I feel like I have all of these dreams and ideas that I never get to because I am stuck pretending to be OK.


How can I do something about it when I spend most days convincing myself everything is OK?”


I recorded a little video where I share two things I spent too much time pretending about and my process for identifying, discovering and breaking the cycle of pretending or settling for just OK.

Watch the VIDEO Here (CLICK)

Connect with me and other Barefooters in the comments below (like way below….keep scrolling). Come share where you have been a pretender, what you have done to break through the ‘OK’ barrier. I’m interested to discover where we find common places to pretend that everything is OK, and where it is not.


I think we all have times and places in our lives & career where convincing ourselves that everything is OK can hold us back from getting what we really want.


Reality does not like pretend.


If we stop pretending we can find time to create a new reality.

The one we truly want. – Kelsey Ramsden


I woke up this morning and read the post I was drafting for you, except it was already in my inbox and was written by Seth Godin…well, part of it.


“No one knows the right answer, no one knows precisely what will happen, no one can produce the desired future, on demand.


Some people are better at guessing than others, but not by much.


The people who are supposed to know rejected Harry Potter, Tracy Chapman and the Beatles. The people who are supposed to know sell stocks just before they go up, and give us rules of thumb that don’t pan out.


If you mistakenly believe that there’s someone who knows, you’re likely to decide that whoever that person it is, it’s not you.


And if it’s not you, what a great reason to hesitate.


In fact, the gap isn’t between the people who know and those that don’t. It’s between the people who show up with their best work, and those that hold back. ” – Seth Godin


If success & happiness depends on showing up and doing your best work, why hesitate?


I can’t speak for you, but I know why I have hesitated, shown up and given just 90%, hid out , hardly showed up at all or totally stalled out: Uncertainty.


Although it makes no sense, somehow we tend to stay in unsatisfactory conditions waiting for certainty to show up. We wait for that ‘someone who knows’ to give us the nod or the golden ticket, to tell us that we can proceed.

No one knows.


Your best bet is you, and the golden ticket is already yours.

People tend to find their golden ticket when they decide that the cost to do nothing and continue accepting unsatisfactory conditions is greater than what it will take to shed the comfort of hesitation.


In my experience, shedding hesitation takes two ingredients:

(1) Clarity

(2) Calculation


Clarity – To understand what you want and why you want it.

This is your why.


Calculation – To understand how you will take the first step, and navigate each step thereafter.

This is your how.


In order to maintain momentum you need both a why and how…..and both need to be deeply rooted.



I wonder where our best work could take us if we stopped hesitating.


Where would it take you?


I’d Love to hear from you.


Comment below and tell me how you deal with hesitation and doing your best work. 


I am particularly interested in what you have to say because you and I are both keen to show up and do our best work. It’s why you and I are connected after all. 


Without hesitation, from the Barefoot Boardroom,